Some people collect knick knacks, some collect stamps, myself...I collect in laws. This was not an intended hobby, it just happened to find me! I have 2 father-in-laws, 2 mother-in-laws, 2 brother-in-laws, one sister-in-law and now I am gaining 2 more sister-in-laws. Hmmmm...it's uneven. Somehow I have to find a brother for my fiance'. I really do not want to get married a fourth time to even out my collection. What a dilemma!!
I am the first person to make fun of myself regarding my multiple marriages. I feel it puts people at ease regarding the subject. I always pictured myself as the girl who would marry in her early 20's, have 2 kids and a dog (picket fence optional), and live happily ever after rocking my years away on the front porch with my wrinkled little husband. Didn't quite happen that way. I cannot totally blame the ex husbands for the failures either. Well, I could I guess but that would not be fair. Fact is, in both my marriages, the only common denominator is me. I played my part; I fully admit it. I did gain something from those experiences. First and foremost, I gained two beautiful children who fill my heart with a love that is unexplained unless you have children. Secondly, I have gained wisdom. I have learned more about myself...who I am and what I want in this life. My hope is that this will prepare me for this upcoming life change. I hope that my past failures lead me to a great success.
My fiance' asked me to marry him a week ago. I have already picked out the colors, my dress, the type of flowers I want, a general idea of the reception menu, and the wedding court. We are looking for a place to get married and someone to officiate. Is officiate the right term? Sounds a little like a ballgame. People think that I have been planning all along, but I have not. The engagement was a complete surprise. Fact is, when you have been married as many times as I have, it is easier to pick out what you have not used as opposed to what you are going to use! Actually, my 7 year old daughter and I sat down and talked about it. She picked out the colors and the dresses...so do NOT tell me it is difficult planning a wedding because I will quickly tell you that even a 7 year old can do it! My son is going to give me away and my daughter is going to be my maid of honor. Every time I picture this I get a bit misty eyed, I cannot believe I am this blessed.
They say third time's charm. Maybe there is something to that, but I don't think so. I think it just took us a little longer to find each other. I think we had things to work out in our lives first, things to heal from and grow from. I love this man with everything in my heart and I am marrying him for all of the right reasons. So what if my collection is uneven...it gives it character!
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